“The two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore whom God has joined together, let man not separate” (Mt 19:5,6)
If the thought of divorce is worming through your brain, just stop and consider the following —
It is not going to be easy for you to lead a single life. A single woman is vulnerable and there are hawks waiting to get at you. You may fall prey to one of them, arousing a scandal. You are not safe in a home without a man. Your parents may consider you a burden. The court proceedings are harassing. Your children will be emotionally damaged. They may require visits to a psychiatrist. They may blame you for their fatherless condition. It is not easy to bear their expenses. They may face mockery at school. Your husband will suffer because of your absence. His physical and emotional needs go unmet. You are exposing him to temptations of adultery. Your parents and in-laws have to face the public and answer the questions o f friends. Even though you may be independent of them, still, emotionally they are stressed out.
You will bear the stigma as a divorcee, which in our country is still looked down upon. Society will view a divorcee as a fallen person and talk behind your back. Before divorce you will wonder why you hate the man you love; after divorce you will wonder why you love the man you hate. Emotional detachment does not come all that easily. In the heat of the moment you will divorce; but gradually the physical, emotional and sexual needs will show up.
All couples have problems. Most problems can be tackled by the grace of God. Do not be too quick to think about separation. May be you can be with your parents two or three days a week, if they are close by, to ease the situation. Get the help of friends and counsellors to solve your problems. Even if nothing works, you can just live together. There is every chance that your life will gradually improve.
If your husband is not a habitual adulterer and if there is no physical abuse, then be content to live together. Don’t be selfish just considering yourself and your own happiness. Consider your children, church and society also.
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
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To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, 8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
“The two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore whom God has joined together, let man not separate” (Mt 19:5,6)
If the thought of divorce is worming through your brain, just stop and consider the following —
It is not going to be easy for you to lead a single life. A single woman is vulnerable and there are hawks waiting to get at you. You may fall prey to one of them, arousing a scandal. You are not safe in a home without a man. Your parents may consider you a burden. The court proceedings are harassing. Your children will be emotionally damaged. They may require visits to a psychiatrist. They may blame you for their fatherless condition. It is not easy to bear their expenses. They may face mockery at school. Your husband will suffer because of your absence. His physical and emotional needs go unmet. You are exposing him to temptations of adultery. Your parents and in-laws have to face the public and answer the questions o f friends. Even though you may be independent of them, still, emotionally they are stressed out.
You will bear the stigma as a divorcee, which in our country is still looked down upon. Society will view a divorcee as a fallen person and talk behind your back. Before divorce you will wonder why you hate the man you love; after divorce you will wonder why you love the man you hate. Emotional detachment does not come all that easily. In the heat of the moment you will divorce; but gradually the physical, emotional and sexual needs will show up.
All couples have problems. Most problems can be tackled by the grace of God. Do not be too quick to think about separation. May be you can be with your parents two or three days a week, if they are close by, to ease the situation. Get the help of friends and counsellors to solve your problems. Even if nothing works, you can just live together. There is every chance that your life will gradually improve.
If your husband is not a habitual adulterer and if there is no physical abuse, then be content to live together. Don’t be selfish just considering yourself and your own happiness. Consider your children, church and society also.
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, Mob:8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
