A Mother In Law Decides !
Reading: Proverbs 23:1-3
“Listen, my son! ... Honour her for all that her hands have done” (Prov 31:1,31)
1. I decide to consider my son and his wife as another family unit. I will not interfere with their decisions. I will let them enjoy all freedom and independence but be available to help them with my advice and counsel pleasantly.
2. I decide to appreciate my daughter-in-law. Even if she makes blunders I will constantly remind myself that she is just starting life and has a lot to learn. I will control my tongue from criticising her like Lemuel’s mother (Prov 31:2).
3. I decide not to possessively claim my son any more. Difficult though, I will let my daughter-in-law serve his coffee, meals and receive him when he comes home. I will not claim his income.
4. I decide not to complain to my son about his wife. I will not expose her mistakes when he comes home, rather hide them and defend her. I will not rejoice in her failures. I will not even secretly desire a misunderstanding or quarrel between them.
5. I decide to forgive my daughter-in-law for all her insulting remarks and for the times she made me feel unwanted. I will silently bear her false accusations knowing God is my Judge.
6. I decide to be thankful to God for the meals, the home and the family around me. I will not hesitate to thank my daughter-in-law, nor say ‘sorry’ for my mistakes. I will not speak ill of her to others.
7. I decide not to despise her parents, possessions, education or appearance. I will not demand money or jewels from her home, nor send her to her parents for every petty reason. I will make her feel welcome whenever she returns from her parents.
8. I decide to be a good grandmother. I will tell my grandchildren Bible stories and take care of them when required. I will not interfere when their parents punish them. I will not speak ill of their mother to them rather infuse in them a love and respect for their parents.
9. I decide to form a circle of friends around the home so that I will not be too dependent on my children for company. I will visit the poor, the beggars, the sick, the outcasts and the non-Christians in the evenings to tell them the love of Christ.
10. I decide to treat my daughter-in-law as my own daughter in understanding, helping, giving, accepting and praying — realising that my daughter will one day be a daughter-in-law. Should I not treat her as I would have my daughter treated in her in-law’s home?
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
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A Mother In Law Decides !
Reading: Proverbs 23:1-3
“Listen, my son! ... Honour her for all that her hands have done” (Prov 31:1,31)
1. I decide to consider my son and his wife as another family unit. I will not interfere with their decisions. I will let them enjoy all freedom and independence but be available to help them with my advice and counsel pleasantly.
2. I decide to appreciate my daughter-in-law. Even if she makes blunders I will constantly remind myself that she is just starting life and has a lot to learn. I will control my tongue from criticising her like Lemuel’s mother (Prov 31:2).
3. I decide not to possessively claim my son any more. Difficult though, I will let my daughter-in-law serve his coffee, meals and receive him when he comes home. I will not claim his income.
4. I decide not to complain to my son about his wife. I will not expose her mistakes when he comes home, rather hide them and defend her. I will not rejoice in her failures. I will not even secretly desire a misunderstanding or quarrel between them.
5. I decide to forgive my daughter-in-law for all her insulting remarks and for the times she made me feel unwanted. I will silently bear her false accusations knowing God is my Judge.
6. I decide to be thankful to God for the meals, the home and the family around me. I will not hesitate to thank my daughter-in-law, nor say ‘sorry’ for my mistakes. I will not speak ill of her to others.
7. I decide not to despise her parents, possessions, education or appearance. I will not demand money or jewels from her home, nor send her to her parents for every petty reason. I will make her feel welcome whenever she returns from her parents.
8. I decide to be a good grandmother. I will tell my grandchildren Bible stories and take care of them when required. I will not interfere when their parents punish them. I will not speak ill of their mother to them rather infuse in them a love and respect for their parents.
9. I decide to form a circle of friends around the home so that I will not be too dependent on my children for company. I will visit the poor, the beggars, the sick, the outcasts and the non-Christians in the evenings to tell them the love of Christ.
10. I decide to treat my daughter-in-law as my own daughter in understanding, helping, giving, accepting and praying — realising that my daughter will one day be a daughter-in-law. Should I not treat her as I would have my daughter treated in her in-law’s home?
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, Mob:8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
