Fire Engine
Reading: Judges 13
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone” (Col 4:6)
Most fire accidents at home happen during our conversation! So here are ten fire hoses to douse any untoward fire at home —
1. Do not generalize your criticism like: “You never help me.” Make it specific like: I wish you helped me when we had guests.
2. Do not refuse to argue leaving your partner begging. Argue palatably, gently and softly without using hard or bad words.
3. Don’t snap by saying, “I can say 101 things about you.” If someone is criticizing you, let that be your focus of discussion. Do not drag his weaknesses when his finger is pointing at you.
4. Do not sidetrack from the central issue. Arguing, “I know what your great grandfather did,” or “Each one has his faults,” leads you nowhere. Do not wander from the point of discussion.
5. Do not deprive your spouse a chance to undo his wrong. You might have accused him of not taking you out. Then when he says, “Okay, let’s go out tonight,” don’t turn your back on him because of ego.
6. Do not find fault with or disbelieve his motives and thoughts. We are not mindreaders. If he says, “I didn’t mean to hurt you,” wipe your tears and say, “Thank you,” with a smile. Don’t charge him of lying. When he says, “I didn’t know,” accept it.
7. Do not sulk at his hints to improve yourself. That will seal his mouth. “Is that so?” you may ask and try to improve.
8. Do not leave him wondering ‘what?’ Explain your actions like if you come late or for your long face because of a sleepless night. Manoah’s wife was a graceful conversationalist.
9. Do not express your displeasure in uncertain terms leaving him wondering. Tell him plainly what you didn’t like. Bite your tongue from using subtle remarks to hurt him.
10. Do not try to win every argument. At a certain point relax. Swallow snide remarks that cut through your heart, blink back your tears and take it to the Lord in prayer. Then continue life with a smile!
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, 8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
Fire Engine
Reading: Judges 13
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone” (Col 4:6)
Most fire accidents at home happen during our conversation! So here are ten fire hoses to douse any untoward fire at home —
1. Do not generalize your criticism like: “You never help me.” Make it specific like: I wish you helped me when we had guests.
2. Do not refuse to argue leaving your partner begging. Argue palatably, gently and softly without using hard or bad words.
3. Don’t snap by saying, “I can say 101 things about you.” If someone is criticizing you, let that be your focus of discussion. Do not drag his weaknesses when his finger is pointing at you.
4. Do not sidetrack from the central issue. Arguing, “I know what your great grandfather did,” or “Each one has his faults,” leads you nowhere. Do not wander from the point of discussion.
5. Do not deprive your spouse a chance to undo his wrong. You might have accused him of not taking you out. Then when he says, “Okay, let’s go out tonight,” don’t turn your back on him because of ego.
6. Do not find fault with or disbelieve his motives and thoughts. We are not mindreaders. If he says, “I didn’t mean to hurt you,” wipe your tears and say, “Thank you,” with a smile. Don’t charge him of lying. When he says, “I didn’t know,” accept it.
7. Do not sulk at his hints to improve yourself. That will seal his mouth. “Is that so?” you may ask and try to improve.
8. Do not leave him wondering ‘what?’ Explain your actions like if you come late or for your long face because of a sleepless night. Manoah’s wife was a graceful conversationalist.
9. Do not express your displeasure in uncertain terms leaving him wondering. Tell him plainly what you didn’t like. Bite your tongue from using subtle remarks to hurt him.
10. Do not try to win every argument. At a certain point relax. Swallow snide remarks that cut through your heart, blink back your tears and take it to the Lord in prayer. Then continue life with a smile!
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, Mob:8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
