Happily Ever After !
Reading: Luke 1:5-7
“To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband” (1 Cor 7:10)
Every marriage has rock-bottom times. Most women are tempted to think of divorce at least now and then. If there are a hundred reasons to divorce, there are hundred and one reasons to stay together. Below are some myths that may lead us astray —
1. Myth number one is: He doesn’t care for me; I need to separate. “We have found in our research that the best marriages are the ones in which you are really invested in your partner’s interests, as opposed to your own,” says Juli, a marriage counsellor. The happiest couples give without expecting anything in return. This is not to say that your interests are not important. But strike a balance. You also must be happy so that those around you will be happy. “While being respectful with your in-laws is important, you must also define your boundaries,” advises Hingorrany.
2. Myth two is that we need to tell our partner exactly what we need, because he is not a mind-reader. Make no mistake. Open communication is essential for a lasting relationship. But we need to learn to interpret his non-verbal cues too. Be available and responding to his subtle needs for attention even by simply turning away from your smartphone or TV to respond to him.
3. Couples who have screaming fights are headed for divorce is another myth. Hot fights can be a sign of a healthy relationship. But learn to laugh at your fights after the fireworks and hold hands. “Conflict-avoiders have a peaceful existence, but they can wind up leading parallel lives in which they’re very distant from one another,” says John, a marriage researcher. Learn gentle exchange of views, respecting your partner’s views and grow in your marriage. Never start sleeping separately.
However difficult your marriage may be, do not give in to the idea of breaking up. Try all possible means to stick together. Learn to forgive and forget and rebuild. Marriage is like a castle you build. A wise woman will build it by keeping stones of love, understanding, forgiveness, peace, etc., one on top of the other. But a foolish woman will pull out the stones one by one resulting in the collapse of the structure. Marriage is not romance all the time. It is more often rough waves. Ride through the waves with God who has power over the wind and the waves.
(Some thoughts taken from Reader’s Digest, February 2018)
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, 8806270699
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Happily Ever After !
Reading: Luke 1:5-7
“To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband” (1 Cor 7:10)
Every marriage has rock-bottom times. Most women are tempted to think of divorce at least now and then. If there are a hundred reasons to divorce, there are hundred and one reasons to stay together. Below are some myths that may lead us astray —
1. Myth number one is: He doesn’t care for me; I need to separate. “We have found in our research that the best marriages are the ones in which you are really invested in your partner’s interests, as opposed to your own,” says Juli, a marriage counsellor. The happiest couples give without expecting anything in return. This is not to say that your interests are not important. But strike a balance. You also must be happy so that those around you will be happy. “While being respectful with your in-laws is important, you must also define your boundaries,” advises Hingorrany.
2. Myth two is that we need to tell our partner exactly what we need, because he is not a mind-reader. Make no mistake. Open communication is essential for a lasting relationship. But we need to learn to interpret his non-verbal cues too. Be available and responding to his subtle needs for attention even by simply turning away from your smartphone or TV to respond to him.
3. Couples who have screaming fights are headed for divorce is another myth. Hot fights can be a sign of a healthy relationship. But learn to laugh at your fights after the fireworks and hold hands. “Conflict-avoiders have a peaceful existence, but they can wind up leading parallel lives in which they’re very distant from one another,” says John, a marriage researcher. Learn gentle exchange of views, respecting your partner’s views and grow in your marriage. Never start sleeping separately.
However difficult your marriage may be, do not give in to the idea of breaking up. Try all possible means to stick together. Learn to forgive and forget and rebuild. Marriage is like a castle you build. A wise woman will build it by keeping stones of love, understanding, forgiveness, peace, etc., one on top of the other. But a foolish woman will pull out the stones one by one resulting in the collapse of the structure. Marriage is not romance all the time. It is more often rough waves. Ride through the waves with God who has power over the wind and the waves.
(Some thoughts taken from Reader’s Digest, February 2018)
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, Mob:8806270699
blc@bymonline.org