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Reading: Luke  1:5-7

 

“To the married I give this command  (not I, but the Lord): A wife must  not separate from her husband” (1 Cor 7:10)

 

Every   marriage has   rock-bottom times.  Most women   are tempted to think of divorce  at  least now and  then. If there are  a hundred reasons to divorce,  there are  hundred and one reasons to stay together. Below are  some  myths that may  lead  us  astray —

 

1.  Myth number one  is:  He  doesn’t care for me;  I need  to separate. “We have  found  in our research that the  best marriages are  the  ones  in  which  you  are  really  invested in  your  partner’s interests, as opposed to your own,” says  Juli,  a marriage counsellor. The  happiest couples give  without expecting anything in return. This  is not to say that your interests are not important. But strike a balance. You also  must be happy  so that those around you will be happy. “While  being  respectful with  your  in-laws  is important, you must also  define  your boundaries,” advises Hingorrany.

 

2. Myth two is that we need to tell our partner exactly what we need,  because he  is  not  a  mind-reader. Make  no mistake. Open communication is essential for a lasting relationship. But we need to learn to  interpret his  non-verbal cues  too.  Be  available and responding to his subtle needs for attention even by simply  turning away  from  your  smartphone or TV to respond to him.

 

3. Couples  who have screaming fights are headed for divorce is another myth. Hot  fights can  be a sign  of a healthy relationship. But  learn to  laugh at  your  fights after the fireworks and  hold hands. “Conflict-avoiders have  a peaceful existence, but  they  can wind  up leading parallel lives  in which  they’re very  distant from one  another,” says  John, a  marriage researcher. Learn gentle exchange of views,  respecting your partner’s views  and  grow  in your marriage. Never  start sleeping separately.

 

However difficult your  marriage may  be, do not  give  in to the idea of breaking up. Try all possible means to stick together. Learn to  forgive  and  forget and  rebuild. Marriage is  like  a  castle you build.  A wise  woman will  build  it  by  keeping stones of  love, understanding, forgiveness, peace,  etc.,  one on top  of the  other. But a foolish  woman will pull out  the  stones one by one resulting in the collapse of the  structure. Marriage is not  romance all  the time.  It is more  often  rough waves.  Ride through the  waves  with God who has  power over the  wind and  the  waves.

(Some thoughts taken from  Reader’s  Digest,  February 2018)

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Reading: Luke  1:5-7

 

“To the married I give this command  (not I, but the Lord): A wife must  not separate from her husband” (1 Cor 7:10)

 

Every   marriage has   rock-bottom times.  Most women   are tempted to think of divorce  at  least now and  then. If there are  a hundred reasons to divorce,  there are  hundred and one reasons to stay together. Below are  some  myths that may  lead  us  astray —

 

1.  Myth number one  is:  He  doesn’t care for me;  I need  to separate. “We have  found  in our research that the  best marriages are  the  ones  in  which  you  are  really  invested in  your  partner’s interests, as opposed to your own,” says  Juli,  a marriage counsellor. The  happiest couples give  without expecting anything in return. This  is not to say that your interests are not important. But strike a balance. You also  must be happy  so that those around you will be happy. “While  being  respectful with  your  in-laws  is important, you must also  define  your boundaries,” advises Hingorrany.

 

2. Myth two is that we need to tell our partner exactly what we need,  because he  is  not  a  mind-reader. Make  no mistake. Open communication is essential for a lasting relationship. But we need to learn to  interpret his  non-verbal cues  too.  Be  available and responding to his subtle needs for attention even by simply  turning away  from  your  smartphone or TV to respond to him.

 

3. Couples  who have screaming fights are headed for divorce is another myth. Hot  fights can  be a sign  of a healthy relationship. But  learn to  laugh at  your  fights after the fireworks and  hold hands. “Conflict-avoiders have  a peaceful existence, but  they  can wind  up leading parallel lives  in which  they’re very  distant from one  another,” says  John, a  marriage researcher. Learn gentle exchange of views,  respecting your partner’s views  and  grow  in your marriage. Never  start sleeping separately.

 

However difficult your  marriage may  be, do not  give  in to the idea of breaking up. Try all possible means to stick together. Learn to  forgive  and  forget and  rebuild. Marriage is  like  a  castle you build.  A wise  woman will  build  it  by  keeping stones of  love, understanding, forgiveness, peace,  etc.,  one on top  of the  other. But a foolish  woman will pull out  the  stones one by one resulting in the collapse of the  structure. Marriage is not  romance all  the time.  It is more  often  rough waves.  Ride through the  waves  with God who has  power over the  wind and  the  waves.

(Some thoughts taken from  Reader’s  Digest,  February 2018)

  Address for Correspondence Contributions

Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
 +91 9843511943
  lilianstanley@gmail.com

Blessing Youth Mission

Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
 +91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
  hq@bymonline.org
  www.bymonline.org

For Donation & Contributions...

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Name: Blessing Youth Mission
Account Type: Current Account
A/c No.: 37268642054
Bank: State Bank of India
Branch: Siruthozhil,Vellore - 632 006
IFSC No.: SBIN0007274

Gulf Donors

A/c Name: T.Dickson Daniel Moses
Account Type: Saving Account
A/c No.: 35374362080
Bank: State Bank of India
Branch: Siruthozhil,Vellore - 632 006
IFSF: SBIN0007274

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To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address

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Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
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