“She is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord” (1 Cor 7:39)
In India many girls still do not enjoy the luxury of marrying whom they wish. But times are changing and sooner or later you may enjoy the privilege of marrying your sweetheart. Many youth are confident of taking the matter in their own hands but later feel sorry because their parents would have made a better choice. You think your romantic feelings are guiding you to your Prince Charming. But sadly they are more of a hindrance in making a wise choice. They mar many danger signals.
The first tripping stone is to decide too quickly. Your hormones tell you that this is the person for you and you believe it and give word and fall head over heels in love. You haven’t even known him for a month or two. But you think, “I will adjust to him, whatever it may be.” Life is not that simple after the romance fades away from real life. Some girls feel their home is a torture. They have to be in on time and report everything to mom or dad. The earliest they leave home the better, they think, and fall in love all too soon. They don’t realize that they are escaping the pan to fall into the fire. Some girls dumbly marry someone for whom they have no feelings, just because their grandmothers wished so before they died. Don’t jeopardize your life by marrying someone because you don’t want to hurt them. Rebekah was given the choice. The final decision was hers (Gen 24:58). Pray and decide.
There are others who wait and wait for the perfect person. They find some fault or other with each proposal. Your expectations must be realistic. Both of you will have flaws and you need to work hard on your marriage to make it work. On the other hand serious signals like drinking, adultery, faith in other gods, criminal record and the like should be warning signals. Don’t take them lightly and think, “I can change him after marriage.” Never run away from home to get married believing the glibe talk of bachelors with dubious motives. You may be left on the lurch. Marriage is never a private affair. A lifetime decision requires clear understanding and unhurried thinking. So proceed with your foot on the brake, and not on the accelerator. A lonely heart is a vulnerable heart. So have fun and friends instead of romance till the right time.
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, 8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
“She is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord” (1 Cor 7:39)
In India many girls still do not enjoy the luxury of marrying whom they wish. But times are changing and sooner or later you may enjoy the privilege of marrying your sweetheart. Many youth are confident of taking the matter in their own hands but later feel sorry because their parents would have made a better choice. You think your romantic feelings are guiding you to your Prince Charming. But sadly they are more of a hindrance in making a wise choice. They mar many danger signals.
The first tripping stone is to decide too quickly. Your hormones tell you that this is the person for you and you believe it and give word and fall head over heels in love. You haven’t even known him for a month or two. But you think, “I will adjust to him, whatever it may be.” Life is not that simple after the romance fades away from real life. Some girls feel their home is a torture. They have to be in on time and report everything to mom or dad. The earliest they leave home the better, they think, and fall in love all too soon. They don’t realize that they are escaping the pan to fall into the fire. Some girls dumbly marry someone for whom they have no feelings, just because their grandmothers wished so before they died. Don’t jeopardize your life by marrying someone because you don’t want to hurt them. Rebekah was given the choice. The final decision was hers (Gen 24:58). Pray and decide.
There are others who wait and wait for the perfect person. They find some fault or other with each proposal. Your expectations must be realistic. Both of you will have flaws and you need to work hard on your marriage to make it work. On the other hand serious signals like drinking, adultery, faith in other gods, criminal record and the like should be warning signals. Don’t take them lightly and think, “I can change him after marriage.” Never run away from home to get married believing the glibe talk of bachelors with dubious motives. You may be left on the lurch. Marriage is never a private affair. A lifetime decision requires clear understanding and unhurried thinking. So proceed with your foot on the brake, and not on the accelerator. A lonely heart is a vulnerable heart. So have fun and friends instead of romance till the right time.
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, Mob:8806270699
blc@bymonline.org
