Jealousy
Reading: 2 Samuel 3:7-12
“I will search for the one my heart loves” (SS 3:2)
In continuation of the subject of suspicion we need to consider what to do if someone suspects us. In a free-moving society when men and women mingle, very often innocent friendships are suspected. What do you do in such a situation? Move away from that family. Give them time to settle disputes between themselves. Keep praying for restoration of peace in the family. Wait for them to develop confidence in you. You need to be careful regardless of your age. Jealousy is cruel as the grave, says the Shulamite (SS 8:6).
Well, what do you do when you suspect your spouse? Don’t ask, “Who are you thinking about?” We are not mind-readers. Only God can do that. We should not play God. Ultimately each person is answerable to God. Before your husband hurts you, he is hurting God. Individual freedom should not be curbed. Even God did not tie the hands of Adam after giving the commandment. They must prove their love for you by choosing to be faithful to you. But certain circumstances may be too wicked and your help may be needed. If your husband wants to cheat you he can always cheat. We are not together 24 hours a day and an adult cannot be controlled. That somebody may be a strong spiritual person and may not fall for your husband’s overtures. So wait. Your husband may also learn a lesson that he cannot play with everyone or he may be fighting his own spiritual battle.
You should not expect your husband to be running around your feet all the time. You must give him enough latitude to relate to others. Life is laughing, joking, chatting, conversing, sharing problems, giving and receiving counsel, helping, etc. If you really find anything, act on it but make sure it is not a phantom. If all of us behave above suspicion, the world will be a better place to live in and friendships can last for a lifetime!
I want to quote a few lines that I read somewhere: “Jealousy can be an ugly emotion born of insecurity and possessiveness. Yet it can be a healthy response to seeing our love endangered. Jealousy is protection for love, a reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship. But we need to ask ourselves: Is the perceived threat real or not?”
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
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Vellore 632006, India
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To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
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Chennai 600 002, India.
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Jealousy
Reading: 2 Samuel 3:7-12
“I will search for the one my heart loves” (SS 3:2)
In continuation of the subject of suspicion we need to consider what to do if someone suspects us. In a free-moving society when men and women mingle, very often innocent friendships are suspected. What do you do in such a situation? Move away from that family. Give them time to settle disputes between themselves. Keep praying for restoration of peace in the family. Wait for them to develop confidence in you. You need to be careful regardless of your age. Jealousy is cruel as the grave, says the Shulamite (SS 8:6).
Well, what do you do when you suspect your spouse? Don’t ask, “Who are you thinking about?” We are not mind-readers. Only God can do that. We should not play God. Ultimately each person is answerable to God. Before your husband hurts you, he is hurting God. Individual freedom should not be curbed. Even God did not tie the hands of Adam after giving the commandment. They must prove their love for you by choosing to be faithful to you. But certain circumstances may be too wicked and your help may be needed. If your husband wants to cheat you he can always cheat. We are not together 24 hours a day and an adult cannot be controlled. That somebody may be a strong spiritual person and may not fall for your husband’s overtures. So wait. Your husband may also learn a lesson that he cannot play with everyone or he may be fighting his own spiritual battle.
You should not expect your husband to be running around your feet all the time. You must give him enough latitude to relate to others. Life is laughing, joking, chatting, conversing, sharing problems, giving and receiving counsel, helping, etc. If you really find anything, act on it but make sure it is not a phantom. If all of us behave above suspicion, the world will be a better place to live in and friendships can last for a lifetime!
I want to quote a few lines that I read somewhere: “Jealousy can be an ugly emotion born of insecurity and possessiveness. Yet it can be a healthy response to seeing our love endangered. Jealousy is protection for love, a reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship. But we need to ask ourselves: Is the perceived threat real or not?”
Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91 9843511943
lilianstanley@gmail.com
Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
+91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
hq@bymonline.org
www.bymonline.org
Click here for more options
To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address
Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
+91-44-28450411, Mob:8806270699
blc@bymonline.org