Young, Single, Free!

 

 

David was enviably young, happily single and totally free! Someone fell in love with this ruddy stalwart fellow. Know who? God! What was so great about this youth that attracted God’s heart?

 

He was pure in heart!

 

God is a holiness-lover  (Mal 2:11).  He naturally  enjoys  the company  of holiness- lovers. David’s writings reveal how careful the was in guarding his heart. “You desire truth in the inward parts” (Psa 51:6).   “He who speaks the truth in his heart”  (Psa

15:2).  He  would  not have  realized  the path  God  would  take  him  through  when  he prayed, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my thoughts; And see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psa 139:23,

24). God let young David go through situations which would incite his anger, jealousy,

pride, hatred, etc., and he had to constantly struggle to keep them from filling his heart. He kept asking God to search him and cleanse him no mater what cost he had to pay for that.

 

There were eight young men in that family but of only one could God testify that he guarded  his heart. Samuel was taken by the outward  appearance;  but God saw the inside (1 Sam 16:7). David the youngest was not even considered worthy to be invited to meet the prophet. Only on Samuel’s request he was sent for. But God voted for him.

 

“The  imagination of man’s heart is evil from his youth” (Gen 8:21). That’s why the

Bible counsels, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Prov

4:23). Note the verse following:  “Mouth...lips...eyes...feet.”  Without right thinking  we follow feelings and desires into dark swamps of personal deception and eventual self- destruction.

 

Start training your heart to think right with the help of God’s Word. Heart is the bull’s eye of the  devil’s  target,  because  he knows  out of  it spring  the  issues  of life. Whether  you succeed  or not is another  matter,  but you must  be constantly  fighting against evil thoughts.

 

Daily pray the prayer of the man whose heart was pleasing to God: “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord” (Psa

19:14).

 

He was diligent in work!

 

When the seven sons were available at home, David was minding the sheep (1 Sam

16:11). When all went to war and David had no work in Saul’s court, “he returned to feed his father’s sheep” (17:15). His father needed not to beg, coax or force him. He was heart and soul after his shepherding business. He cared for his sheep and threw his life for them. He killed a lion and a bear and saved the lambs from their mouth (17:35-36). No wonder success followed him like a shadow. He was promoted to the king’s presence and later as king, to shepherd the Lord’s flock. “Do you see a man diligent in his work? He will serve before kings; he will not serve before obscure men” (Prov 22:29).

 

Whatever work is entrusted to you, do it with utmost care and sincerity. Develop a quest for quality and excellence. Even if you have to draw a margin take a foot rule and draw it straight. You must do your duty to the best of your knowledge and ability. If young people give in to shoddiness, they cannot escape the downward spiral of defeat.

 

A little servant girl said, “Before accepting Christ I swept around the mat. But now I sweep under the mat too!” If you are faithful in small things God will promote you to great  things.  Now  God  is  training  you  for  a  higher  responsibility.  His  promotion depends on your performance  today in the little things of everyday.  Sloth and youth should not be friends. The lazy, careless and  disorganised person is easily identified by any employer and sacked at the earliest. Keep trying harder and you’ll do better than you ever thought you could. Improve everyday.

 

He used his talents!

 

A talent is a natural gift. However despicable it may seem to be, still it is valuable. David’s brothers were grown up and manifesting military skills. But this youngster was still without a beard and minding the sheep. Yet he did not feel useless. He practised his guitar and learned to use his catapult. He sang and also possibly composed little songs about birds and flowers and God. Shepherding  did not fill his whole horizon. There were other things he learned.

 

Though there was no open appreciation of his talents he kept training himself in the jungles.  He  was  asked  to  run  errands  (17:17).  He  was  steamrolled  by his brothers (17:28),  and ‘disdained’  by Goliath  (17:42).  Saul called  him a ‘stripling’(17:56).  But someone had observed that he was, “skilful in playing, a mighty man of valour, a man of war, prudent in matters, and a handsome person; and the Lord was with him” (16:18). A time came when God  started using his talents; first to drive    out the evil spirit from Saul, then to kill the Philistine, then to lead Israel and finally to be a blessing to the whole world by his legendary writings.

 

Don’t let your desire to accomplish something in life get lost somewhere on the way. Neither develop the habit of blaming others for your failures. You are responsible for your life. Handle it well. Your choices decide your future. If you decide to only dream, you remain a dreamer. If you decide to quit, that’s your choice. But if you decide to come up in life, the ladder is before you.

 

Can you sing?  Keep singing.  Do  you write? Keep writing.  Are you good at your studies?  Study  well.  Does  your  mother  expect  you  to  do  house  work?  Do  without grudging. Does your heart melt on seeing suffering? Keep helping. Talents take time to grow wings. Growth, development and maturity are painfully slow processes. But “you need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what He has promised” (Heb 10:36).

 

He was sexually pure!

 

When  David  was visiting  Saul’s  court  he probably  fell in love with  his daughter Merab. He got excited to know that she will be given in marriage to the one who killed the giant. Time and again he asked what the killer’s reward would be! (17:25,26,30). But to his utter disappointment the capricious king gave her to another man. Think of how much David would have dreamed of her and how crushed he would have felt after his  historic  victory  over  Goliath.  When  Israel  was  celebrating  the  victory,  he  was

 

drinking a bitter cup. But he neither complained nor questioned God. He did not think of committing suicide. He knew God knew what was best for him.

 

Your sex life must be totally committed to God. David did not run into a head-on- collision affair. He kept his thoughts to himself and when God’s answer was a crude

‘No,’ he bowed himself to it. Infatuation is a youth disease. Dreaming of someone does

not mean you are in love. Romantic  emotions  come and go with the wind. Learn to contain your emotions. Speak to God about it and leave him to decide for you.

 

Youth are thrown together more in the modern society. Teen years are too early to fall in love. It is time to be friendly with everyone without falling in love with anyone in particular. Avoid commitment through promises, letters or physical intimacy. You are not locked into this friendship and so you can back off without guilt, if you feel God is leading you otherwise.

 

In any case physical intimacy should be avoided before marriage. Do not trifle with lives. Young lives are precious. We are not to try on people like ready-made outfits and throw  them  off  if  they  don’t  suit.  How  much  harm  you  cause  the  other  persons. Choosing a partner is to be done with much prayer. Lean on your parents. Seek counsel from trusted elders if necessary. Avoid narrating your past sins. Bury them.

 

On the other hand. if you are ditched by someone,  quickly pick up the shattered pieces of your heart and assemble them. Stop behaving like a martyr. There’s a whole world out there. You should not go down on your knees before someone who doesn’t care for you. Neither  should young people try to whip a person into marrying  them using old letters, photographs, etc.

 

If  you  are  at  the  receiving  end,  don’t  give  in  to  such  bullies.  True  love  is  not possessive. It gives freedom to the partner to accept or reject. Be bold. You have the right to refuse. Seek you parent’s help. Once you realise you have made a mistake in your choice, it is best to break  up as early as possible.  It is right to break a wrong commitment.

 

Something  interesting  happened.  “Michal,  Saul’s  daughter,  loved  David”  (18:20). First the shepherd boy fell in love with a princess. But then a princess fell in love with the shepherd boy. Was that not better? God gave him someone who loved him and later saved his life from murderers (10:12). Certainly it was not worth marrying Merab who didn’t have the guts to open her mouth to her father as against  Michal who helped David escape and faced her father’s fury. God is the best matchmaker, if you can only totally trust Him.

 

Young, single, free! That’s what you are, young man, young woman. Enjoy your life in

Christ!

 

 

  Address for Correspondence Contributions

Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
 +91 9843511943
  lilianstanley@gmail.com

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Young, Single, Free!

 

 

David was enviably young, happily single and totally free! Someone fell in love with this ruddy stalwart fellow. Know who? God! What was so great about this youth that attracted God’s heart?

 

He was pure in heart!

 

God is a holiness-lover  (Mal 2:11).  He naturally  enjoys  the company  of holiness- lovers. David’s writings reveal how careful the was in guarding his heart. “You desire truth in the inward parts” (Psa 51:6).   “He who speaks the truth in his heart”  (Psa

15:2).  He  would  not have  realized  the path  God  would  take  him  through  when  he prayed, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my thoughts; And see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psa 139:23,

24). God let young David go through situations which would incite his anger, jealousy,

pride, hatred, etc., and he had to constantly struggle to keep them from filling his heart. He kept asking God to search him and cleanse him no mater what cost he had to pay for that.

 

There were eight young men in that family but of only one could God testify that he guarded  his heart. Samuel was taken by the outward  appearance;  but God saw the inside (1 Sam 16:7). David the youngest was not even considered worthy to be invited to meet the prophet. Only on Samuel’s request he was sent for. But God voted for him.

 

“The  imagination of man’s heart is evil from his youth” (Gen 8:21). That’s why the

Bible counsels, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Prov

4:23). Note the verse following:  “Mouth...lips...eyes...feet.”  Without right thinking  we follow feelings and desires into dark swamps of personal deception and eventual self- destruction.

 

Start training your heart to think right with the help of God’s Word. Heart is the bull’s eye of the  devil’s  target,  because  he knows  out of  it spring  the  issues  of life. Whether  you succeed  or not is another  matter,  but you must  be constantly  fighting against evil thoughts.

 

Daily pray the prayer of the man whose heart was pleasing to God: “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord” (Psa

19:14).

 

He was diligent in work!

 

When the seven sons were available at home, David was minding the sheep (1 Sam

16:11). When all went to war and David had no work in Saul’s court, “he returned to feed his father’s sheep” (17:15). His father needed not to beg, coax or force him. He was heart and soul after his shepherding business. He cared for his sheep and threw his life for them. He killed a lion and a bear and saved the lambs from their mouth (17:35-36). No wonder success followed him like a shadow. He was promoted to the king’s presence and later as king, to shepherd the Lord’s flock. “Do you see a man diligent in his work? He will serve before kings; he will not serve before obscure men” (Prov 22:29).

 

Whatever work is entrusted to you, do it with utmost care and sincerity. Develop a quest for quality and excellence. Even if you have to draw a margin take a foot rule and draw it straight. You must do your duty to the best of your knowledge and ability. If young people give in to shoddiness, they cannot escape the downward spiral of defeat.

 

A little servant girl said, “Before accepting Christ I swept around the mat. But now I sweep under the mat too!” If you are faithful in small things God will promote you to great  things.  Now  God  is  training  you  for  a  higher  responsibility.  His  promotion depends on your performance  today in the little things of everyday.  Sloth and youth should not be friends. The lazy, careless and  disorganised person is easily identified by any employer and sacked at the earliest. Keep trying harder and you’ll do better than you ever thought you could. Improve everyday.

 

He used his talents!

 

A talent is a natural gift. However despicable it may seem to be, still it is valuable. David’s brothers were grown up and manifesting military skills. But this youngster was still without a beard and minding the sheep. Yet he did not feel useless. He practised his guitar and learned to use his catapult. He sang and also possibly composed little songs about birds and flowers and God. Shepherding  did not fill his whole horizon. There were other things he learned.

 

Though there was no open appreciation of his talents he kept training himself in the jungles.  He  was  asked  to  run  errands  (17:17).  He  was  steamrolled  by his brothers (17:28),  and ‘disdained’  by Goliath  (17:42).  Saul called  him a ‘stripling’(17:56).  But someone had observed that he was, “skilful in playing, a mighty man of valour, a man of war, prudent in matters, and a handsome person; and the Lord was with him” (16:18). A time came when God  started using his talents; first to drive    out the evil spirit from Saul, then to kill the Philistine, then to lead Israel and finally to be a blessing to the whole world by his legendary writings.

 

Don’t let your desire to accomplish something in life get lost somewhere on the way. Neither develop the habit of blaming others for your failures. You are responsible for your life. Handle it well. Your choices decide your future. If you decide to only dream, you remain a dreamer. If you decide to quit, that’s your choice. But if you decide to come up in life, the ladder is before you.

 

Can you sing?  Keep singing.  Do  you write? Keep writing.  Are you good at your studies?  Study  well.  Does  your  mother  expect  you  to  do  house  work?  Do  without grudging. Does your heart melt on seeing suffering? Keep helping. Talents take time to grow wings. Growth, development and maturity are painfully slow processes. But “you need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what He has promised” (Heb 10:36).

 

He was sexually pure!

 

When  David  was visiting  Saul’s  court  he probably  fell in love with  his daughter Merab. He got excited to know that she will be given in marriage to the one who killed the giant. Time and again he asked what the killer’s reward would be! (17:25,26,30). But to his utter disappointment the capricious king gave her to another man. Think of how much David would have dreamed of her and how crushed he would have felt after his  historic  victory  over  Goliath.  When  Israel  was  celebrating  the  victory,  he  was

 

drinking a bitter cup. But he neither complained nor questioned God. He did not think of committing suicide. He knew God knew what was best for him.

 

Your sex life must be totally committed to God. David did not run into a head-on- collision affair. He kept his thoughts to himself and when God’s answer was a crude

‘No,’ he bowed himself to it. Infatuation is a youth disease. Dreaming of someone does

not mean you are in love. Romantic  emotions  come and go with the wind. Learn to contain your emotions. Speak to God about it and leave him to decide for you.

 

Youth are thrown together more in the modern society. Teen years are too early to fall in love. It is time to be friendly with everyone without falling in love with anyone in particular. Avoid commitment through promises, letters or physical intimacy. You are not locked into this friendship and so you can back off without guilt, if you feel God is leading you otherwise.

 

In any case physical intimacy should be avoided before marriage. Do not trifle with lives. Young lives are precious. We are not to try on people like ready-made outfits and throw  them  off  if  they  don’t  suit.  How  much  harm  you  cause  the  other  persons. Choosing a partner is to be done with much prayer. Lean on your parents. Seek counsel from trusted elders if necessary. Avoid narrating your past sins. Bury them.

 

On the other hand. if you are ditched by someone,  quickly pick up the shattered pieces of your heart and assemble them. Stop behaving like a martyr. There’s a whole world out there. You should not go down on your knees before someone who doesn’t care for you. Neither  should young people try to whip a person into marrying  them using old letters, photographs, etc.

 

If  you  are  at  the  receiving  end,  don’t  give  in  to  such  bullies.  True  love  is  not possessive. It gives freedom to the partner to accept or reject. Be bold. You have the right to refuse. Seek you parent’s help. Once you realise you have made a mistake in your choice, it is best to break  up as early as possible.  It is right to break a wrong commitment.

 

Something  interesting  happened.  “Michal,  Saul’s  daughter,  loved  David”  (18:20). First the shepherd boy fell in love with a princess. But then a princess fell in love with the shepherd boy. Was that not better? God gave him someone who loved him and later saved his life from murderers (10:12). Certainly it was not worth marrying Merab who didn’t have the guts to open her mouth to her father as against  Michal who helped David escape and faced her father’s fury. God is the best matchmaker, if you can only totally trust Him.

 

Young, single, free! That’s what you are, young man, young woman. Enjoy your life in

Christ!

 

 

  Address for Correspondence Contributions

Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
 +91 9843511943
  lilianstanley@gmail.com

Blessing Youth Mission

Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
 +91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
  hq@bymonline.org
  www.bymonline.org

For Donation & Contributions...

Home & NRE donors

Name: Blessing Youth Mission
Account Type: Current Account
A/c No.: 37268642054
Bank: State Bank of India
Branch: Siruthozhil,Vellore - 632 006
IFSC No.: SBIN0007274

Overseas Donors

Name: Blessing Youth Mission
A/c No.: 1074703964
Bank: Central Bank of India
Branch: Vellore
IFSC No.: CBIN0280887
MICR Code: 000016000
SWIFT Code: CBININBBMDR

Gulf Donors

A/c Name: T.Dickson Daniel Moses
Account Type: Saving Account
A/c No.: 35374362080
Bank: State Bank of India
Branch: Siruthozhil,Vellore - 632 006
IFSF: SBIN0007274

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  Blessing Literature Centre

To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address

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Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
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  blc@bymonline.org