A Love Story    

 

There is a beautiful yet sensible romance recorded in the book of Ruth which gives young girls guidelines for selecting their life partner. Ruth and Orpah had come into a god-fearing family. When adversity struck, their mother-in-law Naomi decided to go back to her native place with them (1:6). But on the way Naomi felt the girls should be allowed to choose for themselves whether to go with her or not. Or was it God who wanted to test the stability of their faith? So the choice was put before them. So far they simply followed Naomi. Now it was for them to make an independent decision. The beauty of the history starts with the strong decision of Ruth. The day she turned her back on her gods and took refuge on the God of Israel marked the turn of the tide. It was a clear decision. She said, “Don’t urge me to leave you, or to turn back from following you, For wherever you go, I will go. And wherever you stay, I will stay. Your people shall be my people and your God, my God” (1:16,17). The next verse says, “She was determined to go.”

Naomi encouraged her daughters-in-law to go back to their land so they could find husbands (1:8-15). Ruth sensed that and adamantly took her stand to go with Naomi that she may have a husband who worships the living God. It was this right turn and right choice that led her to the right person.

Married life is not a joke. It is a hard path but lovely. In married life the woman learns to love and to give and to sacrifice and to  suffer. In that she needs an arm of support which can only be given by a godly man.

Have you made a decision for Christ? If not, do not procrastinate. Decide today whether you will go your own way or choose the God of Naomi to be the Master of your life. Are you willing to leave Moab for Bethlehem? Ruth’s life hung on that momentary decision  which changed the entire course of her life. That vital decision brought into her life the One who gives life and that more abundantly. No doubt Orpah also married but her name is no more to be found in the Book of books. As for Ruth she found rest in the house of her husband (1:9); because under the wings of the Lord God of Israel she came to trust (2:12). Behold, the Lord places before you life and death, heaven and hell. Choose this day. Do not be like Orpah who decided to go with Naomi but could not be “determined” in her decision, because she could not believe that the God of Naomi could provide her a husband (1:10-14). Decide and be determined and the Lord will provide for you. Ruth believed against hope and the Lord supplied her needs (1:10-13).

When they came to Bethlehem, Ruth did not sit idle, waiting for God’s plan to be fulfilled. She said to Naomi, “Please let me go to the field, and glean heads of grain” (2:2,17). This should be the spirit of youth. Work is dignity. No work should be too menial for you to do. When the servant of Abraham came looking for a bride for Isaac he prayed for a hard-working girl (Gen 24:14). He found a hard-working Rebekah fit for his master’s son—a man of great wealth! Here we find the wealthy Boaz enchanted by a working woman!

These are days of ‘good’ TV shows, ‘harmless’movies and ‘clean’ novels in the religious world. But these should never make you lazy. These days young people tend to do anything but work—and hard household cores. Soon you have to manage a household of your own. Which college teaches it except the Home College?

Involve yourself in the Lord’s work someway. Be busy in your church activities. Help people in need. If you are studying, do not evade sports and games. Sports and games are not sin. In fact they are very important for your health. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and you can spoil it by not maintaining it. Whether you are in school, college or home, join some active game. “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might” (Eccl 9:10).

So Ruth went and gleaned in the fields. “And she happened to come to the part of the field belonging to Boaz, who was of the family of Elimelech” (2:3). It should gladden your heart to know that circumstances are ruled by God. It was God who brought Ruth face to face with Boaz. What of Rebekah? “And it happened, before he had finished speaking, that Rebekah ... came out with her pitcher on her shoulder” (Gen 24:15). In my case my would-be-husband happened to be posted in a Harbour Project for training, where my brother-in-law happened to be an engineer and he happened to invite him to speak in a prayer meeting in his house! I need not tell you the rest of the happenings! Let not circumstances threaten you. God whose hands handle circumstances is doing it right now for you.

In all probability Boaz was by then starry eyed! He wanted to know who Ruth was. He wanted her to stay in his field only and that close by. He was too quick to command the young men not to touch her (2:8,9). Ruth had a real serious question. “Why have I found favour in your eyes, that you should take notice of me, since I am a foreigner?” (2:10). Everyone knew she was a Moabitess. Then why and what and how this affinity? Ruth was a poor widow; but Boaz was a man of great wealth (2:1). What made this girl amorous in the eyes of this rich man? Not her cupid’s arrows. Boaz cites her outstanding qualities by which he was drawn to her.

First of all it was the report that he received of her conduct in her family and work, of how she left idols and turned to the living God and how she did not go after young men, whether poor or rich (2:11,12; 3:10). In other words, 1) Her testimony at home, 2) Her testimony in the church, and 3) Her testimony in public. These are the three areas where you must get a good conduct certificate. It must be well reported of you.

Boaz says, “You did not go after young men, whether poor or rich, ... And ... all the people of my town know that you are a virtuous woman” (3:11). Here is a vital truth for a Christian girl. The more she maintains a distance between herself and the men with whom she is thrown together, the more dignified she becomes. Girls who throw themselves at the feet of boys, in the pursuit of happiness, become cheap stuff. Those young men who flirt, surprisingly (when it comes to the question of marriage) do not wish to marry a flirt. Do not lose your self-respect by giving yourself to the lusts of men. It takes as much courage not to do a thing as to do it. Do not unwittingly shower megadoses of love on anyone. Learn to refrain yourself. Do the people of your town know that you are a woman of noble character? Godly men look for virtuous girls. None of your outward decorations are going to win you a godly man. Marilyn Monroe make-up lures the men of the world. Dress decently and smartly and never be uncouth. But concentrate on inward beauty and develop spiritual qualities. Do not get involved in any affair and get your testimony spoilt. Richer years lie in the womb of the future.

Ruth left the matter in the hands of her guardian and followed her godly counsel (3:1,5). Youth is an age of flitting and fleeting emotions. So do not make rash promises. Wait. It is very difficult to take the right decision in an emotional state. Remember, the mistake you make here is a life-time mistake. You need guidance and counsel. Hasty couples quickly go up the hill of happiness and then like Jack and Jill break their crown and come tumbling down at high velocity. Many girls take their matrimonial affair entirely into their hands and make blind decisions in a cloudy atmosphere. It looks like the zing thing! But when the air clears, the reality of life stares in their face. Then it is too late! After the euphoria, they realise what they have is not what they wanted!

Marriage is a family affair. Parents have a responsible share in it. They know what life is. Follow their counsel and you are safe. You have the right to choose your partner or express your views of the qualities you look for in your partner. For example, if you are a believer you must take a bold stand to marry only a believer. Many active believers have committed the mistake of marrying unbelievers and now sit by the rivers of Babylon and weep remembering Zion, hanging their harps upon the willows. For, how can they sing the Lord’s song in a foreign land? It is spiritual suicide. Allow your parents to have a say within your conditions.

Ruth was open to God’s will. She did not pose conditions on God. She did not demand that God should work out things for her to marry Boaz. No doubt she hoped that Boaz would marry her. For she said, “I am Ruth, your maidservant. Take your maid servant under your wing, for you are a near kinsman” (3:9). But when Boaz said, “Now it is true that I am your near kinsman; however, there is another who is more closely related than I”, she accepted it (3:12). She trusted God to give her the best.

It is good to have desires and ambitions. It is not wrong to ask God for a handsome youngman of high education. It is perfectly alright to seek for a man of your status. But let the conclusion of your prayer be, “Nevertheless, not my will, but Your will be done.” Beware of prophets and prophetesses who bring pressure, direct or indirect, upon you. Expect God to gently guide you into His choice. As a young girl I wanted to marry a missionary doctor. But God’s will was different. I am glad I did not lean on my own understanding. God expects us to use our common sense. Be open to God’s will. God will bring things to pass when the time is ripe.

Ruth was patient. She waited for God’s time. Satan is ever ready to push you over the edge when you sit impatiently on the precipice. I still remember what my mother told one of my professors on the day of my engagement: “It was so very difficult to fulfill the conditions of your student and get a man after her own heart.” Difficult indeed—to “sit still until you know how the matter will turn out” (3:18). This could be the best counsel for young girls. Sit still! “Be still and know that I am God,” says the Lord. If your earthly father being evil knows how to find a good groom for you, how much more will your heavenly Father know? Quit worrying.

“Ruth ... I have acquired as my wife ... You are witnesses,” says Boaz and all the elders and people reply, “We are witnesses” (4:10,11). What else can be a seal for a God-ordained marriage? God is not the author of confusion. Eloping is becoming common. But the Bible says, “Marriage is honourable among all” (Heb 13:4). So let it be among all. Nothing like starting your married life with the blessing of elders. Let it not be a secret thing. The danger of that kind of marriage is that the bond is so loose that it makes it easier for the couple to break apart at the slightest misunderstanding. There is no social obligation or moral fear. There are countless number of girls deserted by their husbands. They go into an icy cocoon — miserable, single, lonely and unable to come back to their parents for help because of shame. Oh, it is an eerie glide to the abyss.

What a prophetic blessing Ruth received! “The Lord make the woman who is coming to your house like Rachel and Leah, the two who built the house of Israel; ... May your house be like the house of Perez whom Tamar bore to Judah, because of the offspring which the Lord will give you by this young woman.” She received the added blessing of Leah and Rachel and was instrumental to bring Jesus Christ to the world. At the twilight of her life arose the morning star. Yes, if you marry the man of God’s choice you will be the instrument in God’s hand to build His Kingdom, to bring forth godly offspring in this perishing generation!

  Address for Correspondence Contributions

Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
 +91 9843511943
  lilianstanley@gmail.com

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 +91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
  hq@bymonline.org
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Name: Blessing Youth Mission
Account Type: Current Account
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Name: Blessing Youth Mission
A/c No.: 1074703964
Bank: Central Bank of India
Branch: Vellore
IFSC No.: CBIN0280887
MICR Code: 000016000
SWIFT Code: CBININBBMDR

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A/c Name: T.Dickson Daniel Moses
Account Type: Saving Account
A/c No.: 35374362080
Bank: State Bank of India
Branch: Siruthozhil,Vellore - 632 006
IFSF: SBIN0007274

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A Love Story    

 

There is a beautiful yet sensible romance recorded in the book of Ruth which gives young girls guidelines for selecting their life partner. Ruth and Orpah had come into a god-fearing family. When adversity struck, their mother-in-law Naomi decided to go back to her native place with them (1:6). But on the way Naomi felt the girls should be allowed to choose for themselves whether to go with her or not. Or was it God who wanted to test the stability of their faith? So the choice was put before them. So far they simply followed Naomi. Now it was for them to make an independent decision. The beauty of the history starts with the strong decision of Ruth. The day she turned her back on her gods and took refuge on the God of Israel marked the turn of the tide. It was a clear decision. She said, “Don’t urge me to leave you, or to turn back from following you, For wherever you go, I will go. And wherever you stay, I will stay. Your people shall be my people and your God, my God” (1:16,17). The next verse says, “She was determined to go.”

Naomi encouraged her daughters-in-law to go back to their land so they could find husbands (1:8-15). Ruth sensed that and adamantly took her stand to go with Naomi that she may have a husband who worships the living God. It was this right turn and right choice that led her to the right person.

Married life is not a joke. It is a hard path but lovely. In married life the woman learns to love and to give and to sacrifice and to  suffer. In that she needs an arm of support which can only be given by a godly man.

Have you made a decision for Christ? If not, do not procrastinate. Decide today whether you will go your own way or choose the God of Naomi to be the Master of your life. Are you willing to leave Moab for Bethlehem? Ruth’s life hung on that momentary decision  which changed the entire course of her life. That vital decision brought into her life the One who gives life and that more abundantly. No doubt Orpah also married but her name is no more to be found in the Book of books. As for Ruth she found rest in the house of her husband (1:9); because under the wings of the Lord God of Israel she came to trust (2:12). Behold, the Lord places before you life and death, heaven and hell. Choose this day. Do not be like Orpah who decided to go with Naomi but could not be “determined” in her decision, because she could not believe that the God of Naomi could provide her a husband (1:10-14). Decide and be determined and the Lord will provide for you. Ruth believed against hope and the Lord supplied her needs (1:10-13).

When they came to Bethlehem, Ruth did not sit idle, waiting for God’s plan to be fulfilled. She said to Naomi, “Please let me go to the field, and glean heads of grain” (2:2,17). This should be the spirit of youth. Work is dignity. No work should be too menial for you to do. When the servant of Abraham came looking for a bride for Isaac he prayed for a hard-working girl (Gen 24:14). He found a hard-working Rebekah fit for his master’s son—a man of great wealth! Here we find the wealthy Boaz enchanted by a working woman!

These are days of ‘good’ TV shows, ‘harmless’movies and ‘clean’ novels in the religious world. But these should never make you lazy. These days young people tend to do anything but work—and hard household cores. Soon you have to manage a household of your own. Which college teaches it except the Home College?

Involve yourself in the Lord’s work someway. Be busy in your church activities. Help people in need. If you are studying, do not evade sports and games. Sports and games are not sin. In fact they are very important for your health. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and you can spoil it by not maintaining it. Whether you are in school, college or home, join some active game. “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might” (Eccl 9:10).

So Ruth went and gleaned in the fields. “And she happened to come to the part of the field belonging to Boaz, who was of the family of Elimelech” (2:3). It should gladden your heart to know that circumstances are ruled by God. It was God who brought Ruth face to face with Boaz. What of Rebekah? “And it happened, before he had finished speaking, that Rebekah ... came out with her pitcher on her shoulder” (Gen 24:15). In my case my would-be-husband happened to be posted in a Harbour Project for training, where my brother-in-law happened to be an engineer and he happened to invite him to speak in a prayer meeting in his house! I need not tell you the rest of the happenings! Let not circumstances threaten you. God whose hands handle circumstances is doing it right now for you.

In all probability Boaz was by then starry eyed! He wanted to know who Ruth was. He wanted her to stay in his field only and that close by. He was too quick to command the young men not to touch her (2:8,9). Ruth had a real serious question. “Why have I found favour in your eyes, that you should take notice of me, since I am a foreigner?” (2:10). Everyone knew she was a Moabitess. Then why and what and how this affinity? Ruth was a poor widow; but Boaz was a man of great wealth (2:1). What made this girl amorous in the eyes of this rich man? Not her cupid’s arrows. Boaz cites her outstanding qualities by which he was drawn to her.

First of all it was the report that he received of her conduct in her family and work, of how she left idols and turned to the living God and how she did not go after young men, whether poor or rich (2:11,12; 3:10). In other words, 1) Her testimony at home, 2) Her testimony in the church, and 3) Her testimony in public. These are the three areas where you must get a good conduct certificate. It must be well reported of you.

Boaz says, “You did not go after young men, whether poor or rich, ... And ... all the people of my town know that you are a virtuous woman” (3:11). Here is a vital truth for a Christian girl. The more she maintains a distance between herself and the men with whom she is thrown together, the more dignified she becomes. Girls who throw themselves at the feet of boys, in the pursuit of happiness, become cheap stuff. Those young men who flirt, surprisingly (when it comes to the question of marriage) do not wish to marry a flirt. Do not lose your self-respect by giving yourself to the lusts of men. It takes as much courage not to do a thing as to do it. Do not unwittingly shower megadoses of love on anyone. Learn to refrain yourself. Do the people of your town know that you are a woman of noble character? Godly men look for virtuous girls. None of your outward decorations are going to win you a godly man. Marilyn Monroe make-up lures the men of the world. Dress decently and smartly and never be uncouth. But concentrate on inward beauty and develop spiritual qualities. Do not get involved in any affair and get your testimony spoilt. Richer years lie in the womb of the future.

Ruth left the matter in the hands of her guardian and followed her godly counsel (3:1,5). Youth is an age of flitting and fleeting emotions. So do not make rash promises. Wait. It is very difficult to take the right decision in an emotional state. Remember, the mistake you make here is a life-time mistake. You need guidance and counsel. Hasty couples quickly go up the hill of happiness and then like Jack and Jill break their crown and come tumbling down at high velocity. Many girls take their matrimonial affair entirely into their hands and make blind decisions in a cloudy atmosphere. It looks like the zing thing! But when the air clears, the reality of life stares in their face. Then it is too late! After the euphoria, they realise what they have is not what they wanted!

Marriage is a family affair. Parents have a responsible share in it. They know what life is. Follow their counsel and you are safe. You have the right to choose your partner or express your views of the qualities you look for in your partner. For example, if you are a believer you must take a bold stand to marry only a believer. Many active believers have committed the mistake of marrying unbelievers and now sit by the rivers of Babylon and weep remembering Zion, hanging their harps upon the willows. For, how can they sing the Lord’s song in a foreign land? It is spiritual suicide. Allow your parents to have a say within your conditions.

Ruth was open to God’s will. She did not pose conditions on God. She did not demand that God should work out things for her to marry Boaz. No doubt she hoped that Boaz would marry her. For she said, “I am Ruth, your maidservant. Take your maid servant under your wing, for you are a near kinsman” (3:9). But when Boaz said, “Now it is true that I am your near kinsman; however, there is another who is more closely related than I”, she accepted it (3:12). She trusted God to give her the best.

It is good to have desires and ambitions. It is not wrong to ask God for a handsome youngman of high education. It is perfectly alright to seek for a man of your status. But let the conclusion of your prayer be, “Nevertheless, not my will, but Your will be done.” Beware of prophets and prophetesses who bring pressure, direct or indirect, upon you. Expect God to gently guide you into His choice. As a young girl I wanted to marry a missionary doctor. But God’s will was different. I am glad I did not lean on my own understanding. God expects us to use our common sense. Be open to God’s will. God will bring things to pass when the time is ripe.

Ruth was patient. She waited for God’s time. Satan is ever ready to push you over the edge when you sit impatiently on the precipice. I still remember what my mother told one of my professors on the day of my engagement: “It was so very difficult to fulfill the conditions of your student and get a man after her own heart.” Difficult indeed—to “sit still until you know how the matter will turn out” (3:18). This could be the best counsel for young girls. Sit still! “Be still and know that I am God,” says the Lord. If your earthly father being evil knows how to find a good groom for you, how much more will your heavenly Father know? Quit worrying.

“Ruth ... I have acquired as my wife ... You are witnesses,” says Boaz and all the elders and people reply, “We are witnesses” (4:10,11). What else can be a seal for a God-ordained marriage? God is not the author of confusion. Eloping is becoming common. But the Bible says, “Marriage is honourable among all” (Heb 13:4). So let it be among all. Nothing like starting your married life with the blessing of elders. Let it not be a secret thing. The danger of that kind of marriage is that the bond is so loose that it makes it easier for the couple to break apart at the slightest misunderstanding. There is no social obligation or moral fear. There are countless number of girls deserted by their husbands. They go into an icy cocoon — miserable, single, lonely and unable to come back to their parents for help because of shame. Oh, it is an eerie glide to the abyss.

What a prophetic blessing Ruth received! “The Lord make the woman who is coming to your house like Rachel and Leah, the two who built the house of Israel; ... May your house be like the house of Perez whom Tamar bore to Judah, because of the offspring which the Lord will give you by this young woman.” She received the added blessing of Leah and Rachel and was instrumental to bring Jesus Christ to the world. At the twilight of her life arose the morning star. Yes, if you marry the man of God’s choice you will be the instrument in God’s hand to build His Kingdom, to bring forth godly offspring in this perishing generation!

  Address for Correspondence Contributions

Dr. Lilian Stanley
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
 +91 9843511943
  lilianstanley@gmail.com

Blessing Youth Mission

Blessing Youth Mission
13 Church Colony
Vellore 632006, India
 +91-416-2242943, +91-416-2248943
  hq@bymonline.org
  www.bymonline.org

For Donation & Contributions...

Home & NRE donors

Name: Blessing Youth Mission
Account Type: Current Account
A/c No.: 37268642054
Bank: State Bank of India
Branch: Siruthozhil,Vellore - 632 006
IFSC No.: SBIN0007274

Overseas Donors

Name: Blessing Youth Mission
A/c No.: 1074703964
Bank: Central Bank of India
Branch: Vellore
IFSC No.: CBIN0280887
MICR Code: 000016000
SWIFT Code: CBININBBMDR

Gulf Donors

A/c Name: T.Dickson Daniel Moses
Account Type: Saving Account
A/c No.: 35374362080
Bank: State Bank of India
Branch: Siruthozhil,Vellore - 632 006
IFSF: SBIN0007274

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  Blessing Literature Centre

To buy books written by Dr. Lilian Stanley, kindly reach to us in the follwing address

Blessing Literature Centre
21/11 West Coovam River Road,
Chintadripet,
Chennai 600 002, India.
 +91-44-28450411
  blc@bymonline.org